I became active in the local kink / BDSM community almost as soon as I arrived in San Francisco in 2000 – and I still very much love going to kink / queer parties. Do say hello if you see me at one of these…

But when I started as a pro domme five plus years ago, I was very conscious of quite how much I didn’t know – and very anxious to do things properly. So I sought out experienced dommes. Early on, I was very grateful that Selina Raven was willing to be my mentor. She was very generous with her good advice, and specifically recommended that I attend Cleo Du Bois’s three-day course - the Academy of S&M Arts Women’s Pro Intensive . Looking back, that was a great introduction to being a pro domme – plus I had tons of fun practicing with the stunt bottoms provided (the picture is from the course)…

Anyway… Here I am… Five years later… With a rather lovely stable of slaves and sissies who just love serving me – and indulging my kinky desires.

And then… Over the last year or so, I have been running into friends and acquaintances who want to explore being a domme and being more kinky. There is something about my reaching the five year mark which seems to make me “experienced” – and there is something about my personality that makes potential dommes seek me out. So now I am a mentor.

Currently there are four women "enrolled" in the program – but it wouldn’t surprise me if more appear over time. One is a friend who probably doesn’t want to work professionally (but we’ll see?), but does want to explore this aspect of herself. One is a friend of a friend, who wants to explore more kinky stuff in her new relationship. Two are fellow sex workers, who up to now have mostly been doing GFE (Girl Friend Experience), but have clients who want them to introduce kink and BDSM elements into their sessions – which they are only too happy to do.

So as part of our mentor / mentoree relationships, I have been doing one-on-one excursions to the Citadel – mostly to observe, to feel comfortable around what can be a somewhat overwhelming environment. For example, one of my mentorees and I went to the Citadel New Comers event - which was very gender fluid and hawt!

Then in a couple of cases, I made a few of my favourite slaves / sissies book a co-session – where I am supervising (and inevitably participating), and one of my mentorees is a ”Mistress in training”. There are pictures of some of those sessions in my Fetlife gallery - if you know where to look….

I have also had my mentorees book a training session with me where I walk them through a typical session – switching back and forth between session mode and commentary mode – explaining why I am doing what I am doing. Those sessions were a great deal of fun – getting to torture and fuck lovely women as part of a teaching moment.

What could be better…? 

Ms Emilie