I notice that quite a high proportion of my clients are interested in feminization or sissification. Which is actually quite nice, as I seem to find a “man in a dress” really rather hot!
But I also find myself wondering about what’s going on… Am I seeing a higher proportion of clients with that interest than other providers? What is it that the clients find exciting about wearing frilly knickers (or whatever)?
As to the frequency… There doesn’t seem to be much real statistical evidence. It doesn’t seem to be a topic that is high on social scientists’ list of research interests? But I did find a book (“Gender Reversals and Gender Cultures: Anthropological and Historical Perspectives” by Sabrina Petra Ramet, Dec 12, 1996) which refers to a Martha Stein study of more than 1200 men who visited “call girls” (as we were so quaintly named back in the 1990s?). Of those, 156 were submissives, and of those 24 liked to be “forced” to dress in female clothing. Who knows how much weight one should place on a small sample from one study, but that would give a frequency of roughly 2%. Whereas, my equally un-scientific experience is that among clients who see me, the frequency is nearer 30% or more. So it may be that my clients are self-selecting – those with an interest in feminization are more likely to seek me out? Perhaps it is that they are very much aware that I didn’t always wear “female clothing” – and so might have a better perspective on their interest? Who knows…
But whatever the relative frequencies, the clients I see do find feminization very alluring. Some are content with just a few token items of clothing, while others want to don a full array of clothes with shoes and makeup and a wig – to be as “passable” as possible. Some are comfortable exploring without any need for pressure, while some need to be “forced”. It’s a far from uniform set of experiences. But they do share very intense feelings of excitement and arousal. The Sabrina Petra Ramet book (above) places that excitement firmly in the realm of taboo – whether accompanied by coercion or not. As such, it unleashes a flood of intense psychological feelings, many of which are pleasurable, but some of which are shameful. Which can make it quite a handful for a caring domme!
And I am not immune to the power of that taboo. When I see a client nearly naked and still clearly male-bodied, but wearing (say) a cute set of Victoria Secrets lingerie (perhaps the Bombshell bra and matching panties in Pink Stripe with Floral Lace Trim), there’s a rather wonderful frisson… It’s hot!
Ms Emilie